STYLE YOUR LIFE INTERVIEWS
Tell us a bit about your background, both work and education. How did you come to find your true passion?
I am a twice divorced, single mother of 3 beautiful daughters. I currently live in Metro Atlanta, however I was born and raised in NJ and I have lived in various states, as well as other countries, as a military wife of 18 years. For the bulk of my adult life my primary job was that of a stay-at-home-mom; I chose family over career, because I didn’t believe it was possible to effectively have both (I was wrong). In 2005, when I became keenly aware that my second marriage was not going to survive I made the decision to return to school after nearly 20 years. I earned my BS Psychology and I am currently in line to receive my Master’s in Social Psychology.
It was always clear to me that I loved people, everything about people. I simply enjoy the conversations, interactions, the movements and facial expressions of people – we are indeed an awesome creation. I began to serve others first in ministry, I am an ordained minister and then in the capacity of life coach – which to me is ministry without the formal mentioning of God – although my programs are all founded in Biblical principle. It was while serving in the capacity that it became even clearer to me that I loved relationships and romance. I love to see romance budding, I love to see a dying relationship find new life, I love people finding it within themselves to take another’s needs and desires into consideration and I get an overwhelming sense of joy when I am able to guide and facilitate couples into a place of respect and stability from which they can grow. Even as a child my favorite television show was ‘The Love Boat”!
After reading about what it means to us to #StyleYourLife, how do you style your life? How do you customize it and make your life for you?
My life is styled to create a perfect picture of ME. The manner in which I speak, dress, do business, interact with the opposite sex and show up in the world is all centered on my core beliefs of who I am as a woman. I operate from an authentic place comes from my very core – I truly do not know how to be anyone except ME. My values and beliefs are shared with boldness and I do not apologize for my flaws and quirks – I embrace the very essence of who I am in every way. I give me what I need first and then I freely and willing give to others from my overflow and that is the power that I operate in that styles my life for ME.
Can you tell us a bit about what’s in store for your future?
The future looks amazing! I have several partnerships unveiling in 2015 with matchmaking and speed dating companies here in the city of Atlanta. As well as 3 upcoming books and the opening of “Charming ME” etiquette school for young women. Academically I will receive my Master’s in 2016 and move on to pursue my PsyD.
As a coach I will be launching 2 new products: my signature coaching series “The Real ME eXperince” a 1 on 1 coaching series and “The Catalyst Compound” – which is a coaching program for coaches.
Do you have any tips/tricks to share with aspiring women in business and fellow female leaders?
BE yourself at all cost! Only what is real and authentic will stand in the end.
DO NOT compromise your core values.
Success is NOT negotiable.
Find YOUR power and operate from that place of power!
Surround yourself with like-minded woman.
Support others in order that you too will be supported.
Get your money right and keep it right.
Get a coach to help you develop areas of weakness.
DO what you do well and OUTSOURCE the rest!
What does it mean to be happy, to you? Can you share 5 tips to happiness?
Happiness to ME is a state of full awareness and acceptance of yourself and your current circumstance – with the knowledge that you have the ability to evolve higher.
Embrace your uniqueness, what I call your divine design.
Believe in something higher than your own human abilities.
BE a friend.
How would you advise other women to take control of their careers and customize their lives in all aspects?
My advice would be to first become clear on what your standard are, and then never deviate from the standards you set. This is valid in your personal, business and relational life. So much of how we show up in the world is based how we intermingle with the people we encounter and when I have been the unhappiest or unfulfilled in my life have been the times when I have allowed my standards to be overshadowed by others in some way.
Know your worth. NO one else can tell you what you value is. A boss can set your salary, a client can negotiate a fee but no one gets to determine your worth and value. In fact let me help you with this one: YOU ARE PRICELESS!
BE who you were created to be.
Educate yourself – even if not formally, read, listen, try new things – always approach life from a learning perspective.
Most importantly, BE ALIVE. BE FULLY AWARE. FULLY CONCIOUS. ALWAYS READY FOR THE CHALLENGE!